Day 168 – To Hug with Intent

10 HUGS, 3 children, 7 adults (1 husband, 5 neighborhood friends, 1 Little Gym employee)

Yesterday I was deeply moved by a hug. Yes, it has taken me an entire 2 days to be able to write about it. I guess I was worried I wouldn’t have the right words to describe it. The thing is I can’t get it out of my head.

There was a new employee working at the waste disposal site yesterday. Unlike many new friends (my preferred word for strangers) I have come across, there was no question on his face of why I might be asking for a hug. Just a quick yes response with arms wide open. That alone melts me every time. The part that has stayed with me since yesterday was his expression after the hug. I glanced up at him before I left and his eyes locked on to mine. I felt like he was staring straight in to the heart of me. A moment in which our two worlds collided and in that instant we understood each other to the core. Now that is how you hug someone.

That was such a valuable lesson for me. Almost halfway through this journey I have so much to learn still about the power of a hug when it is truly done right. I want to spend the second half of my year focusing more on giving better hugs than getting a large volume of hugs. I now know that I want every single person that gets hugged by me to feel the same way that that waste disposal employee made me feel. I want them to feel alive, connected and important. I want them to feel loved.

This was my mission today when visiting with a neighbor that is feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. Rather than giving the obligatory ‘hi, how are you doing?’ hug, I held on tight and didn’t let go until I felt the tension melt from her shoulders. It may have been a brief moment, but it was a moment in which she could forget about everything else and just be.

Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.


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