Day 178 – Hug Strike

4 HUGS, 2 children, 2 adults (1 husband, 1 neighborhood friend)

Apparently I was on a hug strike today and didn’t know it. I had numerous opportunities for hugs and totally didn’t take them. I was having a fun day with my kids, but deep down I was pretty darn cranky all day. I even passed an opportunity to hug 4 of my neighbors while they were waiting at the bus stop. That is so not like me! Get this – I didn’t even put any makeup on today…. *GASP* (I know that doesn’t have to do with hugs, but it is relevant nonetheless)

I am at this very unanticipated point in my hug journey. I am beginning to make new connections and friendships with people who don’t know about my blog. I haven’t told them because I don’t want them to feel as though my hugs were only for the blog. Now I am concerned that when they find out about the blog they will think I am untrustworthy. I am concerned they will feel violated that I may have written about them without their consent. Even though I never use names. I have a bad feeling in my gut that maybe they are right? This is uncharted territory and I don’t have rules or even guidelines to follow.

There have been moments that I think maybe I should stop sharing. Maybe I could just let my new relationships develop without worrying about what could go wrong. But then, someone helped me to remember I have chosen to share a joyful and loving experience with others through my blog and I need to accept that some people will understand this and some won’t, but it doesn’t change who I am as a person. They will either like me or they won’t. Either way I will continue to hug. (and for the next 187 days, write about it.)

Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.

P.S. Thank you neighbor for dragging me out tonight and forcing me to hug you.

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2 thoughts on “Day 178 – Hug Strike

  1. okay…I think this is one of my favorite posts. I love your raw honesty about where you are today….
    and you are right….it is a fine line between that we who write or preach or story tell try to walk…
    some days we do it well—protect the anonomous–learn from the stranger and tell the story to impact others—-other days depending on where we are and where others are….well most of us humans cross the line occasionally.

    Yes the hugs have changed you—and my guess is—they have changed others as well…but the truth is…………..there is more good done then harm…and in the end any situational ethicists would side with that which is more loving.

    your blog impacts people you never meet in ways you will never know about—never be able to fathom—your witness to touching, being present, smiling and loving has helped me to open up…
    I have examined issues of space, issues about my own internal issues that hold me back….and you know what? I find I am happier, that I touch people more, that I dont’ worry about how they will percieve my hug or my embrace…..I just do it without thinking anymore..

    don’t be beating yourself up……….your goal is good, you heart is good and if we are all honest….ego does happen sometimes. if nothing else ………just be…be who you are created to become and stop worrying….about perceptions…you are a natural born hugger…so……just embrace it and blog it.

    blessings and many long hugs to you on this night…………….

    • Thank you Pam. This brought tears to my eyes and I am so happy to hear the amazing changes you have made. It is incredibly humbling to know that I have made such an impact. I am sending big hugs right back to you.

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