7 HUGS, 3 children, 4 adults (1 husband, 2 neighborhood friends, 1 therapist)
A friend made a comment today that got me thinking about my family. She mentioned that no matter how busy her brother is he makes time to Skype every night. He knows this is important to her and makes the time so that she can see her new nephew even though they live states apart.
Many of my family members ask me to Skype with them but I have only done it a handful of times. As a matter of fact, I don’t even talk with my family on the phone every day. Sometimes I have been known to go a few months before talking with my Dad! Craziness. I use the excuse of life getting in the way, but that’s not really it. If I felt it was important I would make time. The thing is, I love hearing from my family, but I know that they all have busy lives to lead too. If I don’t hear from them often I am ok with that. I know they love me and think of me every day and that is enough for me. And of course because I think this way, I figure that they think this way too. I am realizing I may be very wrong.
It’s time I learn to start paying attention to what they want. If I hear them say they want to Skype, well, it’s because they want to not only hear from me, but see me as well. Paying attention also means more than just listening. One of them might say, “oh, hey it’s ok, as long as I hear from you once in a while that’s enough”, but really be thinking, “I miss you so much. I am sad we live so far away and I want to talk to you every day.” Other times they will send letters, cards, articles to us through the mail. Is it because they just want to send them? Maybe. More likely though it is because they want letters, cards, phone calls back to them.
I am learning. Slowly but surely I am learning what it means to pay attention to the needs of those that I love, because it is important.
Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.