Day 283 – The Right Thing To Say

8 HUGS, 2 children, 1 9-month old, 5 adults (1 husband, 1 grade school friend, 2 karate friends, 1 new friend)

Ugh. Forgive me if I get a little emotional tonight. This morning we went to tour the school that 5 year old is going to be attending and I have been a wreck ever since. And, he doesn’t even start until the end of JULY! Oh… this is going to be a long few months. I know I have to face the fact that my little boy is growing up, but that doesn’t make it any easier. Sniff. Well, at least it makes for a good segue into my post.

Sometimes it can be difficult to know the right words to say when someone is having a hard time in their life. If you say one thing you come across callous, if you say another you come across as arrogant. Still other times you can come across as insincere and all you get is, “You just don’t understand.” I heard a wonderful story today of someone saying the right thing. I imagine the conversation went something like this:

Susan: “Janet, I don’t know what to think. I am being left in the dark about my son’s medical condition. It might be terrible news.” *sobbing*

Janet: “I will be right over.”

I will be right over. Those are some powerful words. Or, if we are not in close proximity, “I am here for you.” Either way the message comes across loud and clear. You are not alone. Janet reinforced this message with a big hug as soon as she saw Susan. (Her son is fine by the way. Yeah!)

Sooo… who is up for a quick trip to my house? *In need of hugs*

Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.

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4 thoughts on “Day 283 – The Right Thing To Say

  1. Melinda…seems today is national hugging day….jan. 21st. Let me be your first virtual hug for the day. (HUG). Please go over to my site today—I have a surprise waiting for you. http://www.pleemiller.blogspot.com. I’m leaving my site so your mom and dad can enjoy your surprise as well. Have a great day and take it from someone who sent her children to a very expensive private montessori for thier first year…….if a kid is in a loving home, filled with laughter and hugs, it really doesn’t matter where they go to school…they will have the tools they need to find their own path in the world. I’m learning that more than ever as the off color children grow into adulthood. happy day to you and thanks for being who you are!

  2. Melinda…my “kids” are 22 & 18 but I will never forget those days! You will get lots of meaningful hugs as I did, but the best one came from my daughter. On the first day of school I stood with tears in my eyes (trying to hide them of course!) and my daughter looked straight at me and said “go ahead and leave, I will be just fine, there are alot of new friends here” and she gave me the biggest hug and then said….”YOU will be ok.!” I thought I was suppose to say that! 😉 Know that you are a great mom & the kids will be ok but it is nice to know that many moms & dads have been where you are and it is ok the feel the way you do!!! BIG HUG TO YOU!!!

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