6 HUGS, 2 children, 1 10-month old, 3 adults (1 husband, 2 childhood friends)
Why is it that we have a tendency to focus on that one bad thing that happened when 100 other good things happened alongside it? I am so guilty of this. As soon as that negative thing happens I suddenly get selective amnesia. I forget all of the positive things that have brought me to the negative thing and all the positive things that will come because of the negative thing. Throughout this year I have worked on retraining my brain. Instead of falling into the “oh my god the world is crumbling around me” trap I have worked hard at acknowledging the positives when life has thrown hard punches my way. I am getting better. And, it seems the better I get at acknowledging the positives, the more they come my way.
Take yesterday for example. My initial reaction was to think the world is a hopeless cause. My journey is pointless and kindness can’t be spread. (yes, please feel free to call me Your Highness Drama Queen) But, it didn’t take me long to remember all the good that had happened prior to yesterday. All of my interactions up to that point had been positive. Even when I have received no’s, I didn’t feel the interaction was negative. I just felt as though my hugs were just not for them. When I remembered and acknowledged the positives, love began flowing my way. Emails were sent, comments were shared and positive vibes flowed in from all of you.
Every day you remind me of the good that I am doing. Every day you remind me of the positive impact I am making in your lives. I mean just look at this saying I was sent via email this morning. A friend sent it saying it made her think of me. (I always will you know, hug tighter.)
Life has its ups and downs. It’s what makes us feel alive. It’s what helps to shape who we are. This journey and subsequent negative experience has only enforced the fact that I believe in kindness and that love (and hugs) will conquer all.
Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.