Life’s Wisdom

It can be so hard to see the silver lining when we are in the thick of a difficult time. We have the knowledge that things will get better, but we don’t feel like it ever will. We know we should try to look on the bright side and have gratitude for all that is going right, but sometimes trying to do that just causes us to feel more helpless. Over the past year I started to learn that practicing gratitude during the happy times helps. It is a great way to remind yourself to live in the moment and that more than anything is the most helpful thing to do while going through a difficult time. It reminds you to acknowledge any negative feelings. Once they are acknowledged you can submerse yourself in them fully without thinking ahead to how this will affect you, how others might be thinking of you, or what the outcome will be. Next thing you know the deep rooted negative emotions will begin to lose their hold on you. You will begin to feel that maybe, just maybe life can go on. A weight will lift off your shoulders and before you know it a smile will begin to play on your lips and you will have survived the pain.

Time and again I have thought, if I just read more books and learn more coping mechanisms I will have enough knowledge to finally know how to get through the bad times. That would make them so much easier. Yet no matter how much I read, no matter how much I know, the bad times still feel just as hard. Then, I read this quote in the latest book I read home front by Kristin Hannah,

We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. – Marcel Proust

Wisdom doesn’t come from knowledge, it comes from experience. These bad times must be experienced in order to gain more wisdom. While the negative feelings will not lessen the more wisdom we get, hopefully the amount of time experiencing them will.

With each passing challenge in my life I feel myself become stronger, more confident and possessing more patience. I feel gratitude for these challenges in my life. I don’t like having to go through them, but I am grateful for the person I have become because of them.

Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.


4 thoughts on “Life’s Wisdom

  1. So true Mel. I’ve been feeling the same for sometime now and keep reminding myself that I need to see how far I’ve come and not how far I’ve to go.

  2. so very true….what I now know….is this: “there are bad things that happen to me and to everyone else in the world—life doesn’t always consist of rainbows and flowers—there are valleys before the mountains and it is the struggle to climb from the bottom to the top that makes the view so spectacular……..experiential encounters reminience deep inside us, giving us strength to go on when we don’t feel like it and don’t want to………….there are very few things that in ten years or even 10 days will feel as bad it did on the day it happened…most often it provides a reflection of Holy in the ordinary part of our life…most of us need to feel that “THAT THING” THAT IS BIGGER THAN OURSELF..PULLED US ALONG, PUSHED US UP WHEN WE SAT DOWN AND RAISED HANDS FOR A HIGH FIVE WHEN WE SUCCEEDED…..IT IS A JOURNEY THAT IS CUMULATIVE….AND WE BUILD ON IT….AND GIRL…YOU’VE GOT SOME HUGS TO BUILD ON….
    hAVE A GREAT DAY…I do love it when you let us see…just for a moment where you are, what you are thinking in your raw honest….and here I go again…rambling that is….that is what I am most infamous for………….blessings to you Melinda….and a strong internet hug as well..

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