It can be so hard to see the silver lining when we are in the thick of a difficult time. We have the knowledge that things will get better, but we don’t feel like it ever will. We know we should try to look on the bright side and have gratitude for all that is going right, but sometimes trying to do that just causes us to feel more helpless. Over the past year I started to learn that practicing gratitude during the happy times helps. It is a great way to remind yourself to live in the moment and that more than anything is the most helpful thing to do while going through a difficult time. It reminds you to acknowledge any negative feelings. Once they are acknowledged you can submerse yourself in them fully without thinking ahead to how this will affect you, how others might be thinking of you, or what the outcome will be. Next thing you know the deep rooted negative emotions will begin to lose their hold on you. You will begin to feel that maybe, just maybe life can go on. A weight will lift off your shoulders and before you know it a smile will begin to play on your lips and you will have survived the pain.
Time and again I have thought, if I just read more books and learn more coping mechanisms I will have enough knowledge to finally know how to get through the bad times. That would make them so much easier. Yet no matter how much I read, no matter how much I know, the bad times still feel just as hard. Then, I read this quote in the latest book I read home front by Kristin Hannah,
We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. – Marcel Proust
Wisdom doesn’t come from knowledge, it comes from experience. These bad times must be experienced in order to gain more wisdom. While the negative feelings will not lessen the more wisdom we get, hopefully the amount of time experiencing them will.
With each passing challenge in my life I feel myself become stronger, more confident and possessing more patience. I feel gratitude for these challenges in my life. I don’t like having to go through them, but I am grateful for the person I have become because of them.
Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.