Twice today I took an opportunity to view my fellow parishioners from a unique standpoint.
The first time gave me quite a pause to think about all the ways we humans are alike in ways that we dare not reveal. When speaking on forgiveness our Reverend made a very funny joke about spouses and death. I just tried to retell it to my husband and he just looked at me like I was crazy, so I won’t dare try here. Anyway, the gist of it was how at times when we are so angry at our spouse some of us may think, I don’t want to divorce them, but death might work. You wouldn’t think that would work as a joke, but trust me it did. I stopped laughing long enough to notice that literally nearly all of the congregation was laughing; and for a very long time! I would imagine this is only funny because it is true for most of us. And, the laughter that it elicited was almost maniacal because it’s also something that our Reverend of all people should never joke about, yet he did. There it was. It was out there and the release that followed was joyous and cleansing. Thoughts are just that. Thoughts. We can’t control them anymore than we can control our feelings. So, let us allow them to come, allow them to wash over us, feel the emotion they elicit (no matter how painful), and let them go. After all, if I learned anything from this experience it is that you are more like your fellow humans in thinking them than you realize.
The second time was during a burning bowl ceremony. The Reverend was stationed at the end and my eyes devoured every hug that he was receiving. But none more so than the ones from the men of our congregation. While the Reverend tried to remain conscious of personal space, the men; one after another, grabbed him by the shoulder and pulled him in to a great big bear hug. Although I should have probably felt a little creepy for shamelessly staring, I just felt overwhelmed with gratitude and love.
Please accept this blog as my virtual hug to you.